It's nearly that time of year when I put together my "wish list".
My hubby is a hit and miss gift giver. Sometimes he gets it right, sometimes he's WAYYYYYYYY off base. he's usually not to bad with practical stuff (like a new electric frying pan) but is hopeless at luxuries (like perfume) My hubby and I know each other quite well, but we have different interests. For example, I'm a reader, he's not. So he could tell you that I read a lot, but probably not what I read. Or when it comes to candles, soap or perfume he could tell you that I'm sensitive to some scents, but can never quite remember which ones. They aren't the kind of details he naturally pays attention to - it's not part of his makeup.
Now it has become obvious to me, after many years off banging my head against the brick wall in frustration, that he and I think differently. I cannot reasonably expect him to "figure out" what would make me smile or we both end up frustrated and disappointed. Me, because I was too stubborn to admit that it was OK that he needs some help and him because he'd gotten it wrong again. So now I make him a list of things that I would like.
A few years ago I started writing my hubby a list. I know some people will say "but if I have to tell him its not a surprise". Well no, but you won't be disappointed either. And it gives them options.
One year, I actually handed him $200, a list and said "go fetch" as I pushed him out the door. He went to the local department store and was laughed at by one of the sales attendants for being so pathetic. BUT. I wrote that list thinking that he'd get 2 or 3 things off it and that I'd still get a surprise as I wouldn't know which things they were.
I got a surprise all right. With some careful choices he managed to stretch the money to get every damn thing on the list!! Including a gorgeous watch that was EXACTLY what I would have picked for myself. Was the best Christmas or Birthday I've ever had!! And he felt GREAT because he knew I was going to like or wanted everything he got.
Now............ where did I put that Regency Jeweller's catalogue........ I might include some pictures with my list this year........... LOL!